Tag: mindset
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Why You’re Tired Isn’t Always About Sleep: The Missing Link Postpartum Moms Need to Know
Most new moms expect sleep deprivation, but few realize that nutritional depletion might be what’s silently stealing their energy, mood, and capacity to show up the way they want. “A lot of moms are tired because they actually don’t nourish their bodies—and they don’t eat enough,” Arti shared. “I learnt that the hard way.” Arti,…
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Designing a Fulfilling Motherhood Life: Jiezhen on Matrescence, Leadership, and Letting Go
“I already knew my impact in the world.” When Jiezhen became a mom, she was already a leadership coach, Harvard graduate, and impact-driven entrepreneur. But motherhood ushered her into an entirely new season—one where identity, purpose, and priorities were stretched, stripped back, and rebuilt. “My daughter broke me in the best way possible,” she shares.…
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Why you need counselling? And here’s your free alternative.
Personal story ahead… When I was struggling with BGR (boy-girl relationship) issues, low self-esteem, lots of shame and stress over academics, I didn’t go to my parents. I didn’t go to the school counsellor. When I was going through a burnout and feeling completely lost in my careeer post-graduation, I didn’t go to a career…
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Start where you are.
This is my all-time favourite mantra since becoming a mother. I know myself, I’ve the habit of wanting to be an expert at everything because I’m anxious that I’d somehow miss something, and my child would get less than she deserves. When I first heard about environmental toxins, I nearly threw out all our baby…
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It takes practice.
Parenting can be messy. You’re new to it – how do you discipline, how do you stay calm, how do you make decisions about everything from food to childcare to family values. Aside from the emotional turmoil of being uncertain, parenting is also quite literally messy. Think baby-led weaning. Think your child would never throw…
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It’s messy because you’re new at it.
Ask a breastfeeding mother. Have you stained your clothes and needed yet another change? Have you also sprayed milk all over your bra, your new bed covers and your newborn’s entire face? Have you struggled with the nursing cover while trying to keep your wailing newborn from falling? Have you skipped a pump because you…
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Be Flexible
I don’t hear enough talk about the immediate postpartum. You’re holding your newborn in your hands. He cries. It might look adorable for five minutes, until you find that you’ve no clue why the baby is crying. Then, you might get anxious. It drives you to read and research voraciously, ask all the mom friends…
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Reframes are lifesavers.
Reframes that are simple, easy to remember and quick to implement can COMPLETELY TRANSFORM YOUR MOTHERHOOD. When your child is throwing food on the floor (reality of baby-led weaning) or you’ve just stepped on a stray lego block, being able to ground yourself and reframe your perspective can change how you choose to respond. There…
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You’re not in control and neither is your child.
I hear often, amongst my peers and in my own head, “my life revolves around the child. The child dictates my entire schedule, my entire life.” It took me a while to realize that it’s not true. For one, there are predispositions from the child’s prenatal experience. Your stress levels throughout pregnancy, your diet, and…
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You’re not in control.
I planned for a home birth. All my friends, from those who have kids in their teens to those who are preparing for birth right now, do not have a home birth. I’m not entirely sure why. Maybe the home birth costs cannot be claimed under Medisave. Maybe only two medical professionals in Singapore can…
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